and it doesn’t matter who you’re saying it to
sometimes my mother has a hard time with the way that i express my feminism, and sometimes she’ll say things like, “well you wouldn’t say that about your BROTHER, right?” or, “you don’t think that about your FATHER, though?!” and i usually kind of pause and wince and sigh and feel like i don’t know how to explain this to her.
anyway tonight i finally went for it and talked about the patriarchy and male privilege and social structures etc. etc., and discussed the existence of the “not all men” argument and how and why it is flawed and problematic, how it distances individual men from the problem and stops them from checking their behavior and making sure that they ARE being good guys. i told her that yes i DO see my brother and my father as part of the patriarchy and that i DO believe that they both experience male privilege, and yeah they’re both pretty good guys and they’re both well-educated and care about women’s issues, but that doesn’t mean that they’re not still part of the problem. they still benefit from male privilege, and i still have to call them out if (when) i catch them being sexist.
but like… she just sees her husband being a nice man. idk. i told her that’s good, it’s good she married a good guy. but. you know.
It’s really so important to apply this to the men who are in our lives every day.
Yes, my boyfriend experiences male privilege. Yes, he says things sometimes that make me stop, evaluate, and ask him why he thinks he said that. Even if he never, ever did or said anything like that, he would still be part of the problem because he experiences the world as a man - with certain privileges. That’s just how it works - so much of the problem comes from how other people perceive you and treat you.
Thank you for putting this into words!
so basically when you have your period and your lower back hurts it is because your hips are contracting and spreading apart, only slightly, to make room for the release of the blood and linings of your uterus. so basically your body is going through a small and mild labor to push out the dead insides of your uterus. so basically I have gone through labor and basically I don’t want children.
why aren’t we taught this shit